feels like home

“your words are my food, your breath my wine. you are everything to me.”
– sarah bernhardt

{via le love}

my guy?Β  he’s lots of things.

an amazing writer
a fantastic mixtape maker
an awesome tennis player

a champion snuggler

and a loving corgi father.
but he’s still a guy.
which means, he’s no jamie oliver. i mean, before our worlds collided, his diet consisted of ramen and burritos – the food of champions!
so over the years, our roles in the kitchen have become clear as crystal – i cook, he cleans. and as a result, i’ve amassed a pretty portfolio of dishes…. and he’s become the master of the dishwasher.Β  πŸ™‚
but yesterday evening, when i walked through our door after another long day at the office, the air was warm, the kitchen light was on and it smelled like…
puzzled face and all, i peered into our kitchen to find rob – the love of my life – surrounded by a zillion bowls, chopping boards, bubbling pots and produce galore.
he was cooking!
and so, on this otherwise ordinary and rainy tuesday evening, we dined on a hearty bowl of halibut miso soup and a crispy, juicy plate of tonkatsu {japanese panko fried pork cutletboys and their fried foods!}.

and it was heaven in my tummy. i almost licked my plate.

as we finished dinner, i turned to him, still amazed.

“did you have fun cooking, babe?”


“uh, not really.”

double pause.

“i just thought it would be nice…and it would make you smiley.”

“and you deserve that.”

and just like that, my heart, like the butter in the pan, melted.Β 
and while there is no way for me to clone my screenplay writing, mixtape making, corgi loving guy, i can share with you his crazy good japanese rainy day comfort food recipe.

Β halibut miso soup

* 4 teaspoons dashi granules
* 8 cups water
* 6 tablespoons miso paste
* 1 (8 ounce) package silken tofu, diced
* 1 bunch of fresh spinach
* 1 1lb fillet of halibut, cut into 2″ pieces


1. in a medium saucepan over medium-high heat, combine dashi granules and water; bring to a boil.
2. reduce heat to medium, and whisk in the miso paste.
3. stir in tofu.
4. add the halibut into the pot and cook for 3-4 minutes
5. add spinach to the soup.
6. simmer gently for 2 to 3 minutes before serving.

extra crispy tonkatsu


* 2 eggs
* 1 cup flour
* salt to taste
* 1/2 teaspoon pepper
* 1 cup vegetable oil for frying
* 8 thin cut boneless pork chops
* 1 1/2 cups panko crumbs


1. in a medium bowl, mix together the eggs, salt and pepper. heat oil in a large heavy skillet or wok over medium-high heat. place the flour and panko crumbs in 2 shallow bowls.
2. rinse pork chops with water, then dip in the egg mixture. coat with flour, then panko crumbs. dip in the egg mixture again, then coat with another layer of flour and panko crumbs. lay coated chops on a plate until the rest are finished. if you have time, let them set for about 10 minutes, and the coating will set very well. if you wish to freeze the chops, now is the time.
3. when the oil is very hot, place pork chops into the pan, and fry for about 5 minutes on each side, until golden brown.
4. serve with rice & hoisin {plum} sauce.


now it’s your turn, friends – what’s your favorite rainy day meal? what’s that dish that makes you happy to be home?
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friends, your sweet thoughts and inspiring comments are the bright spot of my day. please make the jump, hang out and share what’s on your mind. πŸ™‚

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  1. nowcraving wrote:

    How thoughtful! My heart just melted for you πŸ™‚

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  2. sylvie wrote:

    mystica – yes! the double dipping makes all the difference! πŸ™‚

    lena – dear friend, i will have to say that your sweetie definitely has one up on mine in the culinary department…crab & avocado benedict?? now that’s a keeper!

    Posted 11.11.10 Reply
  3. Best guy on Earth-how absolutely adorable!

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  4. Mystica wrote:

    Thanks for the katsu receipe. I did not know about the dipping twice in egg and breadcrumbs!

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  5. sylvie wrote:

    rosy+tart: welcome, friend! when rob & i started watching male cooking shows {jamie oliver, etc}, it kind of made him feel like he could do it too. and occasionally, i’d bribe him with a hefty glass of wine {and lots of kisses} if he was my sous chef for our sunday dinner..

    jen: ahh, i’m still floating from our tuesday dinner. these are definitely the best surprises!

    tash: your notes always make me smile, friend. and i think “smiley” is my new favorite word. hope your week is lovely and amazing!

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  6. You gotta love a man who wants to make you smiley πŸ™‚
    Love that quote too πŸ™‚ Just gorgeous
    xo tash

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  7. Jen wrote:

    Aww, that is the sweetest thing and I totally know what that feels like. My husband doesn’t really cook but he has surprised me with a couple of meals before.

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  8. rosy+tart wrote:

    Aww! I’m going to need your guy to teach my guy how it’s done… because I’m lucky if I can get him to wash the dishes without complaining!

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  9. sylvie wrote:

    ng – yes, he really did say “smiley.” πŸ™‚ and instead of frying the tonkatsu, you can do it healthy style and bake it instead {i know you love your skinny tricks!}

    vanessa – those boys never cease to amaze me! hope you and your guy have an adventure soon πŸ™‚

    studio 13 – welcome! you and i are the same – i literally almost fell down too…since rob also has his phd in cereal pouring πŸ™‚

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  10. Studio 13 wrote:

    How sweet.. I’d fall over in disbelief! {My husband is master of cereal pouring}

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  11. Vanessa wrote:

    Aaaw… Sometimes they really pull out all the stops, don’t they? Your making me miss MY guy!

    Posted 11.11.10 Reply
  12. That is the sweetest story, lovely. And it looks so yummy too! He wants to make you “smiley”… awwww!



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